Forgive the audience for not loving you as much as they should, and love them anyways.

I’ll take you back to a workshop that I took with the wonderful Deanna Fleysher.

Time after time we would stumble on the stage.

Time after time we would, or I would, not get the laughter we/I, had hoped for or the connection that we/I craved.

And her answer, “Forgive them for not loving you as much as they should have and love them anyway. And leave. Give them time to miss you, and come back again.”

Now I’m not prescribing this as a solution for all relational/artistic/audienceperformer difficulties, but there’s something about this.

Rather than shutting down and becoming embittered, the idea of maintaining your lovability, getting honest and trying again, without taking it personally, is something that stuck. And is something that I so often forget. I crawl down into myself and look for someone to point a finger at, usually myself, and, well…that’s not so much fun in the long run.

And I failed miserably, and had to forgive the audience, and myself, a lot.

And in the process I got a lot gentler and a lot softer with everyone, I also got a lot more honest with what WAS NOT WORKING, recognizing when I was failing big time and that this was not the end of the world. And in that process…there was the connection I had craved, in my failure, the audience connected to that. They loved it.

We love people that fail and are honest about it. Funny how that works.

LIFE’S TOO SHORT TO HAVE A FRAGILE EGO. And yet of course, sometimes we do, and we hunker away in our beds for a few days, or a few weeks…and then we crawl back out, and forgive the world for maybe not giving us everything we’d hoped for, and carry on. BECAUSE IT HAPPENS TO ALL OF US!

Read Deanna’s article on this here.

I’ve got two workshops coming up. One for beginners and one for those that have some experience with the work.

Introductory workshop

Workshop for those with experience